Educating a girl child???

Mind is a running machine 24x7 and you cannot help but surrender to this. There are hundred many questions that puzzle me all the time.

Educating a female child, well, has that really blessed them to live an improved life? Are they really free to think, to decide or even to live? If something is ending up in emotional breakdown, long phases of depression and finally a heart full of coldness and respect-less love for the partner, why at all education is important?

I used to think and was told several times that I thought completely differently and selfishly. I stopped being selfish but could not help thinking “differently”. The unselfish me started becoming social as expected and to my relief and surprise I realized that the women of all ages, if they were educated, thought the same way I did and almost everyone of them were announced selfish and were told to stop thinking “selfishly”!!!

Who is responsible, our parents, the society, system or women themselves? The Head of the Department in a very well known Private University says, “I had to fight all my way to keep my dreams alive and that has given me a face of self-centered and heartless selfish woman in the family.” Another statement from a colleague comes, “no matter what all you sacrifice and compromise with, the status is not going to change and you realize it after you spent some considerable time in marriage!!”

Why at all they need to feel guilty to be independent, to be earning their own money? A daughter is educated, given all the freedom to dream about and achieve her ambitions and is told several times by her parents and society how very proud of her they are for being what she is!!! And then she is married…married to someone who himself is very-well educated and a 'settled' man. Life is good and peaceful but with different responsibilities altogether. What made the family feel proud of her becomes a cause of chaos!! She is  selfish if she wants to study, work as the rolr changes post marriage. However, unfortunately, what she holds on her as her responsibility of taking care and nurturing the family is not acknowledged because ironically that is her very obvious DUTY and no achievement. And here ends the story in a helpless-hope that some day things will get better and get under control, in consoling herself that she had her time in life and now its turn to live for the family and make them happy.